Dear Abby: I’ve read your column for years, often taking the advice you give others and applying it to my own situation.
I have developed a mutual relationship with a woman who is 30 – 28 years younger than me. She is a waitress at a diner I frequent.
I have watched her children grow up over the last six or seven years. We have had many meaningful conversations and shared our highs and lows. He is naturally friendly.
Three or four years ago, when I got there, he started getting casual hugs. I never ask them. Over the past year, these hugs have gotten deeper—not s*xual, just a deeper bond of friendship. We IM occasionally when she’s away from work, but I don’t see her socially.
Lately she’s been teasing that she’ll be my next ex. I respond to teasing and teasing. I believe there is a mutual attraction. If not for the age difference, which I’m fine with, or the fear of causing problems in our friendship, I would ask her out.
Social taboos weigh heavily on my mind, and I am pragmatic.
Should I or shouldn’t I? Or am I reading too much into our friendship?
Uncertain in the Midwest
Dear Unsure: Not having witnessed the chemistry between the two of you, I couldn’t say. However, nothing happened, nothing was achieved.
The next time you see her, after one of those “more intimate” hugs, teasingly tell her you’re thinking about her comment that she’ll be your next ex and ask if she Would like to have dinner with you sometime. The answer to this will tell you if you are reading too much into the friendship.
Dear Abby: I’ve been with my husband for seven years, and I’m tired of fighting the same battles every day. He smokes mar*juana, and I hate him.
It has been a constant battle for years. We tried therapy, which helped for a while, but he goes back to smoking behind my back. We tried to work out a compromise where he only smokes after a certain time of day, but it still leads to fights.
When he gets drunk he shuts me down and says I don’t care about his happiness because that’s what he enjoys, and I’m taking it away.
I love him so much, but I hate dr*gs and I don’t like who he becomes when he smokes.
I want to have a baby, but I’m worried about the presence of dr*gs in the house. I feel like I can’t trust her to be alone with the baby when she’s high.
I don’t want to leave it, but I can’t take it anymore. Having the same fight every day is exhausting, and it has had a really negative effect on our marriage.
I want him to choose me over this, but he’ll hate me if I give him an ultimatum. what shall I do?
Anti-Drugs in Illinois
Dear Anti-Drug: Give your husband this ultimatum and pack your bags. If you prefer that the father of your child does not have a weed habit and cannot quit, then as much as you love him, this man is not the one for you. apologies
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