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Last week, I was on the phone with my close male friend, John, when he lamented the rising cost of dating in Toronto.
“A few weeks ago, a woman I contacted through an online dating app asked me to take her to Harbor 60 for our first date.”
John, who has a great job and enjoys the finer things in life, couldn’t imagine spending more than $275 on a tomahawk steak to feed a stranger — or even $75 on fresh chile. For the boss.
I love the Sea Bass as much as the next girl, but even I have to agree that it’s not a good investment – especially, considering the many connections it makes before the first date. would pass
As a result, John says he prefers to keep things more casual for first dates — a round of money pits followed by a beer or cocktail. A formula that mostly seems to work for him.
Dating is often a numbers game. Even if you’re going out several times a week on low-key dates, the price adds up.
As John told me, “Inflation is no joke.”
In August, The Canadian Press With inflation at a 40-year high, many people are simply choosing to cut back on social activities that cost money, including dating, the report said. With restaurant costs up 7.1% and drinks at a bar up 5.5% from last year, I can’t say I blame them.
Sure, you can get creative with your dates – and I mean really creative, like making your date a romantic picnic with foraged mushrooms and the best No Name brand canned corn syrup. Can be bought – but you’re still likely to pay more. To date in 2022.
The painful reality is that dating costs money and – controversial opinion – I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing.
With that being said, I do have a few steadfast rules that I adhere to when it comes to the financial side of modern romance that you may want to follow as well.
If you’re brave enough to suggest taking your date somewhere that serves meat that costs more than a return flight on Flair Airlines, you’re paying. Unless, of course, the other person enthusiastically offers to split the check. Don’t ask people to go and do things you can’t afford to cover yourself.
- Be prepared to split the cost.
With that being said, not everyone understands the above principle. This is why I never accept dates that I don’t feel comfortable, at least, splitting up. In fact, if the date isn’t going well, I like to know that I can pay my half and go on my merry way. If a date feels too extravagant, talk and tell the other person.
- If you can’t afford to date, then don’t date.
Unlike what JLo sang in the early 2000s, My Love does For one thing I love to treat the people I date in ways big and small. Even if it’s just a coffee here or a brunch there, I love it when the favor is returned. I think a lot of people do. This is a very easy way to make the other person feel special.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs places safety needs (personal safety and resources) below love and relatedness needs (relationships and intimacy) on the pyramid. The former providing a basis for the latter. If you don’t have the financial resources to put into dating, that means you have other priorities you need to focus on – and that’s okay.
Like inflation, dating isn’t going anywhere. When you’re ready, press pause, regroup and it’s OK to return.
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