It was a personal matter, and I’m sorry he heard that

Dear Abby: Please share some thoughts on answering the phone on speaker. My lifelong friend does.

Sometimes I find that her husband is in the room. Recently, though, we were on speaker phone when she told me she was going to the beauty salon. When the call connected to his car, I assumed he was by himself. We continued our conversation Very Personal conversation (I was talking) until he reached his destination.

Then he told me They had arrived! I didn’t realize there was anyone else in the car.

Am I upset that she allowed me to do all the talking while her husband listened without my knowledge? She could have easily switched from speaker to private call given the nature of the discussion.

Crazy in Missouri

Dear Crazy: You are not wrong to be worried. I will be too.