Dear Harriet: My neighbor is an old woman who lives alone because her husband died a few years ago and her children lived in a different situation.
We’ve never been close – maybe because my block isn’t the most friendly. Anyway, I want to contact her and tell her that if she wants to come for dinner or needs kindness then we are here.
I want to offer help. It’s not like I’m out of pity. How do I get started?
Dear Elderly Neighbor: With an open heart, go for it.
Start one day by knocking on her door and let her know that you have just stopped to check in and say hello. Ask him out well if he is no longer absorbed in the connection. If she lets you in, sit down with her and listen to what she has to say. Many older people like to tell stories of their past. They can also show what some of their needs are.
Look around Note how she lives. She may need help cleaning her house or arranging her meals. She can definitely benefit from someone else’s cooked food from time to time. Sometimes invite him to your house for dinner. Offer help with small tasks.
If she seems to need significant help, find out if she will keep you in touch with her adult children or other family members with whom you can report status.
Go lightly, though. The best thing you can do is make it easier to deal with people where you can build trust. With this bond, she will be more than willing to welcome your help. Also, be careful not to offer more than you can handle.
Your attention to this elder can be very helpful in any amount. Just make sure you balance your offer with the rest of your life.
Dear Harriet: Summer is over, but I’m not happy about it.
For the first time in almost two years, I had some fun. I used to hang out with friends personally. Things felt normal compared to when we were in quarantine.
But now that I’m not in holiday mode, I have to go back to work and wear a mask every day. Looks like we’re stepping back, and I can’t stand it. What can I do to keep summer energy alive?
More summer, please
Dear more Summer, please: We are all unhappy that we are facing the devastation of the corona virus – now in so many different forms. This is terrible and should be taken seriously as it can be a matter of life or death, especially for those who do not get immunizations.
For all of us, that means we have to make the mistake of caution. Does it take away some freedoms? I believe that wearing a mask is a small price for my health. You might consider fall precautions as a positive health measure rather than a prison.
Also, the thought of moving away from the carefree nature of summer is something that many people experience every year. I also love summer and want it to last a while. Since it can’t happen, I’ve learned to enjoy memories because that’s what happens next. One way to keep happiness flowing is to spend time with your close friends – safely.
Harriet Cole is a life stylist and founder of Dream Lipers, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to [email protected] or c / o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.